Falling in November

What has been up with this weather?  In Kansas, it's been quite Spring- and Summer-like--gorgeous days of 65 to 80-ish degrees instead of brutal, wintry stuff.  (Not that I'm complaining--this compliments an otherwise perfect Autumn).  I hope it stays this way through December, though I'm sure I won't get that lucky.

The trees have begun to shift out of beautiful and varied hues into browns, but while they lasted the reds, yellows, greens, and oranges were quite brilliant this year.   

Since The Sixth Sense

Life's been exceptional since the end of September (when I saw The Sixth Sense a second time, with Heather).  Here's all the news worth mentioning:

  • September ended well:  my friend Stacey and I bought books at the Lawrence  Public Library annual book sale on the 30th or so, then in the next day or two hit The Dusty Bookshelf (a local used book store) and Borders

Many a bargain was bought, including John Gardner's The Art of Fiction (Gardner's brilliant, and also wrote Grendel, one of my favorite alternate takes on mythology), Barbara Hambly's Graveyard Dust (I've heard good things, figured I'd try her out), The Best American Essays 1997, Umberto Eco's The Island of the Day Before (how could I possibly pass it up for a mere $6?), G. K. Chesterton's Thirteen Detectives (a collection of mysteries; Neil Gaiman loves Chesterton, and I'm only familiar with his non-fiction essays, so I thought I'd try him out), and Walter Cronkite's A Reporter's Life (I've long admired Cronkite). 

I'm sure I picked up a few other books between those trips, but I must have already shelved them, so I don't recall what they were offhand.  The Gnashly Crumb Tinies by Edward Gorey--in a new edition, about the right size for reading to your kids--was the only book that I bought at Borders.

  • The first full week of October I managed to miss two rather cool events, though both ended up working out OK in the end.  I had planned to attend a W. S. Merwyn reading on 10/05/99 at Rockhurst University in Kansas City, but all my friends bailed except Irene (another writerly-pawn of Sprint).  However, by the time Irene and I ate dinner at the Seventy Fifth Street Brewery, the reading had already begun, so we blew that off and hung around reading poems for several hours (none, ironically, by Merwyn). 

The second gig, literally this time, I missed was Hyperspherion--a local,  Lawrence-based band that I know one of the members of.  They were playing at the Bottleneck, but I was too tired to attend.  I also missed them later in the month over All Hallow's Eve weekend [sigh].  I'll catch them eventually, of that I'm quite sure.

  • That same week, however, I did manage to catch up with my old poetry professor Vic Contoski, a brilliant poet and teacher.  We ate dinner at Paisano's, talked about life and love, death and the afterlife, poetry, old friends, and all-in-all had a wonderful visit. 

    Vic's in the process of self-publishing a rather limited edition print run (80 copies or so, from what I gather) of his wife Dzidka's collages, photographs, and mosaics--her life's work, from what I understand.  He also just won the 1999 HOPE Award at KU!
  • I did manage to welcome Heather back from her trip to New York City with her good and dear friend Lisa.  Heather and I ate dinner and caught up after her long absence.  (This was the night of the Hyperspherion show as well:  since Heather didn't return to town 'til later, after eating I was quite exhausted and not really up for running out to a smoky bar).  She then promptly fled to Wichita for the weekend to visit family and friends.  Poor Allan! 8-)
  • My good and dear friend Scott Kemme threw a party in KC on Saturday, October 9th (also the birth date of my brother Phil, who turned 28:  I thought it was very kind of Scott to throw Phil a party out here in his honor).  The next day I saw the film Mumford with my friend Meredith--it was pretty enjoyable, and deeper than I had expected it to be, though it dropped a few subplots like tequila shots, never to return to them. 

    Heather returned on Sunday night, and we went for a walk, talking about the stars, her visit and family, life in general, etc. 
  • Monday night, October 11th, Heather and I saw American Beauty:  an amazing film:  while I liked both The Matrix and Sixth Sense better, American Beauty was spectacular!  The casting, acting, and storyline were very moving. 

    *** Warning: American Beauty spoilers follow throughout next paragraph.
    *** Warning: American Beauty spoilers follow throughout next paragraph.
    *** Proceed at own risk.  Not responsible for ruination of the movie for you.

    An interesting question I am left with about the film is why did Colonel Fitts kill Lester Burnham?  Some friends and I have talked about it, and have come up with two different perspectives:

#1: Colonel Fitts was, in fact, gay.   Fitts couldn't stand the fact that Lester knew that he was gay, and then rejected him, therefore he killed him. 

#2:  Colonel Fitts loved his son so much that--despite his revulsion toward homosexuals--he went over to kiss Lester in order to confirm/deny that his son was in fact sleeping with Lester.  This paints Fitts in a much more self-sacrificing light, by showing the great lenghts he was willing to go to for his son, but then leaves his reasons for killing Lester a bit murky for me. 

I'm not too sure which option I like better, but will probaby have to watch the film again to come to a decision.  For the record, most of my friends had thought option #1 was the true state of affairs, and I thought it was option #2.

*** American Beauty spoilers concluded. 
*** Resume standard reading precautions.

After the film, I kissed Heather for the first time.   Wow. 

  • Heather and I began to spend more time together after American Beauty

    Heather told me she was in love with me on the 14th.   I'd already begun to fall in love with her, but wanted to surprise her with a poem on the subject, so (somewhat sillily, I have to admit) I didn't really reply to her "I love you" in kind at that moment.  Sort of awkward, but a good-intentioned awkward, at least 8-)

    I was outed though, by my friend Kimberly in NJ, while chatting with her the next night:   Heather and I were catching up on email, when Kimberly's chat request began with "So, what's all this about being in love" or somesuch (I'd sent Kimberly email a week or so earlier about Heather, and that I was falling in love with her). 

    I still haven't written that poem yet, either . . . .
  • On October 16th, Heather and I visited her friend Vicki Scales and Jim Divney, out at their farm in Oskaloosa (I think??).  We ate some great bread, chili, and barbequeue beef, met a bunch of wonderful people, took a long walk along a country road, and cooked up smores under the night sky at a bonfire.  In addition to Vicki and Jim, I met a very cool guy there named Bob Heintzen who works at Topeka's VA Hospital (he and I hit it off really well--sort of like two alligators sunning themselves on a big rock looking over and saying, "Hey, you're an alligator--so am I:  how cool is that?" ;->), and his wife Karen; a poet named PEZ who teaches at Haskell and is from upstate New York; [more people]  (If I got anyone's names wrong here, please let me know!).

    Suffice to say that we had a wonderful time, and offer many thanks to Vicki and Jim for hosting the gathering, providing the food, and the good company!
  • The rest of October was less eventful.  Our friend Elizabeth Mulkey turned 28 on 10/21; we (Heather and I; Shawn, Elizabeth, their baby Zoe, and Elizabeth's mom) celebrated with dinner at Paisano's.  Heather and I gave Elizabeth a copy of Sarah McLachlan's Rarities, B-Sides and Other Stuff (ya gotta love someone who can use "stuff" properly!) to Elizabeth, who (with her husband Shawn) introduced the two of us. 

    Friday the 22nd, with her friend Jaime, Heather interpreted for School House Rocks! (a live theatre version of the old Saturday morning ABC educational cartoons; Heather had comp tickets so I attended the show for free and saw her interpretating in action for the first time!).  The show was a lot of fun, the performers were great, and my nostalgia gland hit an all-time high!!!

    On the 23rd, Heather and I visited with David and Susan in KC:  we arrived in the afternoon and ate lunch at J. Alexander's, then returned to their apartment to play games for awhile.  Afterward, we all went out to eat dinner with a group of other friends (Nancy, Robin and Tony, Jennifer, and Sumita), then split up:  Robin and Tony, Nancy, David, Heather and I haunted housed at The Edge of Hell while Susan, Sumita, and Jennifer saw The Story of Us, which was apparently good, though somewhat depressing.
  • The last weekend of October I had expected to be quite busily taken up with a visit my cousin Denise, her husband Robert, their newborn daughter Grace, and Robert's extended famly Columbia, MO, but that didn't end up happening.   So, Heather and I sort of ended up with a bonus weekend:  no travel, no mass family gathers (Robert's sister Courtney was marrying her now-husband Mark), etc. 

Heather and I hung out most of the weekend:  we went shopping downtown--including Lovegarden, a few clothes stores (Heather bought a sweater, I nabbed two shirts, a light sweater, and a vest), etc. 

Robert and Misti Edwards threw a Halloween party, but neither Heather nor I really felt like driving up there Saturday night after a full day of wandering, and we also didn't have costumes, so we bailed.  The next day, though??

  • 11/2-3? movie w/Heather: october sky
  • 11/6 = disc golf, bbabll cancel to party, dinner @ freestate/la familia cancel to carlos,
  • 11/8 = bday w/heather
  • 11/12-14 = h in wichita, me w/d & s: rball, films,
  • 11/20 = matt/elise engagement party

All Things Heathery

So, basically, to sum up Heather and I:  I'm in love:  absolutely, completely, unconditionally.  While I don't want to put words into her mouth, I can safely state that "ditto" would sum up her thoughts as well. 

You can meet the love of my life virtually at my Heather Anne Schunk page:  I've got poems I've written about/around Heather, a few pictures there, and such.  I should have a few images of us together sooner vs. later--Heather took some on the night of my birthday--and we hope to scan and upload them.

Of Books, Readings, and All Things Binding

In the books department, I did finish Michael Moorcock's Blood: A Southern Fantasy, and will begin Fabulous Harbours soon-ish, as well as Rilke's Letters to a Young Poet (thanks to my friend Irene for suggesting that one!).  I also completed another corporate book, entitled Gung Ho! (though I don't recall the author offhand), which outlines The Ways of the Squirrel, Beaver, and Goose as a means to rejuvenate the workplace.  Interesting-ish, and certainly more positive than the cheesy corp book I last read, but still somewhat lacking.  Pez.

I'm still plugging away at Kathleen Norris' Amazing Grace, and placed a fairly large-ish mostly-Neil Gaiman-ish order with DreamHaven Books.  My good and dear friends Mark V. (and Cindy sans middle initial) Ziesing, Bookseller get my more general order once I've sufficient cash for it.

(Note that I haven't, in fact, begun to read any of the books that I bought in the past two months (except Kathleen Norris, I suppose).  Kind of makes you wonder just a little, doesn't it?)

The End of the Century? the Millennium? the world??   Or, just the End of This Allan Update?--You Decide:

Well, that wraps up my life over the past two-ish months.  To gaze deeper into my past, check out my August-Septemer bio, the next-most-updated bio, the current-ish bio, less-current bio, and older bio, then the yet-older life notes, followed by earlier, still-earlier, and very-much-still earlier versions of the same, in addition to my original biography (also rather lame/silly) created when The Dreaming City was launched way back in the Spring of '96. 


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